Fat Privilege???

Okay so the other day I was scrolling facebook before bed and I saw this disgusting facebook status (below). The author was a girl who I went to high school with. We were not friends but we were in the same circle of friends. I never liked this girl very much because she had a bad habit of putting people down and being rude.  wpid-screenshot_2014-03-20-22-48-23.png

Well needless to say after I read this I was sick to my stomach. I did not comment because I could not bring myself to comment on the ignorant things this girl said without stooping to her level. The next morning my opinion had changed when I had seen her come straight out and say that “fat people are an inconvenience” to her and they need to be  more aware that there are other people in the world. She basically started asking why fat people think they are so privileged because they choose to be fat… I LOST IT! I was trying to keep my cool and not go off on this girl. This was my first comment on her post.

I am obese. There is no reason for me to deny that. Since you asked why obese people are here I will answer that based on my situation….I am here to be a loving daughter, sister, aunt, niece, friend, classmate, and teacher. I work my ass off to accomplish my goals and dreams. I take offence to your status. However, I am not obese because of my “unhealthy lifestyle”. I am obese because of a medical condition that I have had all of my life. Since I was 12 years old I have dealt with people making rude and in most cases uneducated jokes about my weight. It is not something I can’t control on my own without an extremely risky surgery so I have stayed fat to this point.  When I am out to dinner with friends I get embarrassed when I get looks from people because I eat a salad. People assume I am putting on a show and eating healthy only because I am in public. I am a human. I am here because I have every right to be here just like I have every right to sit down on the train. Or walk a little slower at the end of a long day. I am aware of my size and the fact that it is an inconvenience to me. However…you claiming that my being obese is an inconvenience to you is disgusting. Obviously this status was not about me. I just want to point out that you can not attempt to take on all obese people and bash them for the actions of a few. I am not a person who would attempt to squeeze in next to someone else on a train in fact I would rather stand so there is never a rude status such as this posted about me.  Sure the person you described seems to be a case of an obese person who may live an unhealthy lifestyle. I understand that some obese people do lead extremely unhealthy lifestyles. I just want you to realize there is more to a person than what you see. I am not saying you can not rant on facebook I am just suggesting you think before you post.

Well I got back this whole post about how she does not mean to target people who have a disease just people who choose to be unhealthy. Now I was teased by this girl a lot in high school so obviously she is trying to cover her ass because I am sure she did not expect a comment like mine.

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Now I am sorry but I feel like she missed my point…. Another persons weight is something that they need to deal with. She is saying that people who are heavy are an inconvenience to her. I think she needs to step back and look at her life choices.

I do understand what you are saying but what you had originally said. “WHY are there so many ridiculously obese people and why do I have to suffer for THEIR unhealthy lifestyles?” That is a generalization of all obese people. That is exactly what you said and therefore what I am going off of. You talking about a 350lb woman is not far off from where I am so I will take offence to it. Their weight is an issue that they have to deal with on their own. So you are still missing MY point. Their weight should not be your problem. If you are uncomfortable move from your seat and find another one! You seeing a person for two stops on the train does not show you what their life is like on a normal basis. I am telling you to not judge a book by its cover. (that is a kindergarten lesson but HELL everyone could use a reminder from time to time…) I am not insecure with myself. If I was I would just sit here and not comment. It is because I am comfortable with myself that I can point out the ignorance in your posts.

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After this response I just left it. I am not going to feed into her childish games. She went on to say that there is nothing psychological about overeating and people choose to do it. I understand her point, I do. And I know that people can choose to live an unhealthy lifestyle. However I honest to god think this girl needs some serious help! I can not even explain how rude she is. As for her saying her friends would understand her comment being a joke. I feel bad for her. I feel bad that she has friends who she could make jokes with about something like this. I am completely disgusted but I am very proud of myself for being able to throw my side into the argument. I have come a long way from the person she used to make fun of 7 years ago…

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