I have been getting very crafty recently. I would love to pass on the love! Plus I am all about paying it forward. My rules are simple! The first 10 people to comment on this post with the phrase “I’m in!” (with a link to your blog) will get something from me. (I only ask that you follow my blog!) I’ll do my best to make it something creative, fun, or interesting! It will be at random times throughout the year – you won’t know until you find something waiting in your mailbox!
All I ask is that you agree to pay it forward in the year and do something nice for at least 5 more people. If you are a blogger – please share on your blog If you are just a follower share this on facebook or twitter.Just remember to share the love and tell me how you will pay it forward!
Okay so the other day I was scrolling facebook before bed and I saw this disgusting facebook status (below). The author was a girl who I went to high school with. We were not friends but we were in the same circle of friends. I never liked this girl very much because she had a bad habit of putting people down and being rude.
Well needless to say after I read this I was sick to my stomach. I did not comment because I could not bring myself to comment on the ignorant things this girl said without stooping to her level. The next morning my opinion had changed when I had seen her come straight out and say that “fat people are an inconvenience” to her and they need to be more aware that there are other people in the world. She basically started asking why fat people think they are so privileged because they choose to be fat… I LOST IT! I was trying to keep my cool and not go off on this girl. This was my first comment on her post.
I am obese. There is no reason for me to deny that. Since you asked why obese people are here I will answer that based on my situation….I am here to be a loving daughter, sister, aunt, niece, friend, classmate, and teacher. I work my ass off to accomplish my goals and dreams. I take offence to your status. However, I am not obese because of my “unhealthy lifestyle”. I am obese because of a medical condition that I have had all of my life. Since I was 12 years old I have dealt with people making rude and in most cases uneducated jokes about my weight. It is not something I can’t control on my own without an extremely risky surgery so I have stayed fat to this point. When I am out to dinner with friends I get embarrassed when I get looks from people because I eat a salad. People assume I am putting on a show and eating healthy only because I am in public. I am a human. I am here because I have every right to be here just like I have every right to sit down on the train. Or walk a little slower at the end of a long day. I am aware of my size and the fact that it is an inconvenience to me. However…you claiming that my being obese is an inconvenience to you is disgusting. Obviously this status was not about me. I just want to point out that you can not attempt to take on all obese people and bash them for the actions of a few. I am not a person who would attempt to squeeze in next to someone else on a train in fact I would rather stand so there is never a rude status such as this posted about me. Sure the person you described seems to be a case of an obese person who may live an unhealthy lifestyle. I understand that some obese people do lead extremely unhealthy lifestyles. I just want you to realize there is more to a person than what you see. I am not saying you can not rant on facebook I am just suggesting you think before you post.
Well I got back this whole post about how she does not mean to target people who have a disease just people who choose to be unhealthy. Now I was teased by this girl a lot in high school so obviously she is trying to cover her ass because I am sure she did not expect a comment like mine.
Now I am sorry but I feel like she missed my point…. Another persons weight is something that they need to deal with. She is saying that people who are heavy are an inconvenience to her. I think she needs to step back and look at her life choices.
I do understand what you are saying but what you had originally said. “WHY are there so many ridiculously obese people and why do I have to suffer for THEIR unhealthy lifestyles?” That is a generalization of all obese people. That is exactly what you said and therefore what I am going off of. You talking about a 350lb woman is not far off from where I am so I will take offence to it. Their weight is an issue that they have to deal with on their own. So you are still missing MY point. Their weight should not be your problem. If you are uncomfortable move from your seat and find another one! You seeing a person for two stops on the train does not show you what their life is like on a normal basis. I am telling you to not judge a book by its cover. (that is a kindergarten lesson but HELL everyone could use a reminder from time to time…) I am not insecure with myself. If I was I would just sit here and not comment. It is because I am comfortable with myself that I can point out the ignorance in your posts.
I tried to be snarky without being rude. I wanted to stay above her level.
After this response I just left it. I am not going to feed into her childish games. She went on to say that there is nothing psychological about overeating and people choose to do it. I understand her point, I do. And I know that people can choose to live an unhealthy lifestyle. However I honest to god think this girl needs some serious help! I can not even explain how rude she is. As for her saying her friends would understand her comment being a joke. I feel bad for her. I feel bad that she has friends who she could make jokes with about something like this. I am completely disgusted but I am very proud of myself for being able to throw my side into the argument. I have come a long way from the person she used to make fun of 7 years ago…
At 23 years old I have made some bad decisions in my life. I am not perfect. If I was to say I was I would be lying. This weekend I decided to try out a new look. I am extremely picky with who I let cut my hair. I am very particular because of how curly my hair is. I had a few too many haircuts. I tried a new salon for my last cut and I was blown away. My hair looked amazing. The salon is also around the corner from me. So it is perfect and I can walk over you can not beat that. So I went to the salon on saturday and asked to have the under-layer of my hair lightened one or two shades I wanted a very slight difference. Just something trendy and cute. Something like this…
Well…My hairdresser took it upon herself to bleach my hair. (keep in mind I just got a teaching job.) I have very dark brown hair. I looked like a SKUNK! It came out this gross orange gold white color it was all different colors and it looks like crap. I pulled up my hair and I looked so ridiculous. It was not a straight layer either. She kept telling me it looked amazing I was mortified. The picture below is what it looked like wet. Once it dried it was a lot lighter and looked worse.
I went home and I cried to my mom. She finally made me call my hairdresser back. So yesterday I went back in to the salon and asked her to dye it back to my natural color. She did..kinda. half of it is still this gross color. Thankfully my hair on top kinda hides it. I am going to wait a few days and I am going to dye it from a box. Because I really feel like crap about this decision.
This is the first thing I have really ever regretted doing to my hair. I have put my hair through hell and back in the past. So that says a lot. Maybe I was hoping for something a bit out of reach… Needless to say I will never let this lady color my hair EVER again. She does a great cut so I will go see her for that but never for something like this.
So for now I look like I have zebra stripes in my hair. Does anyone else have a hair color horror story?
Last month I signed up to receive my first Ipsy Glam Bag. Well I am completely in love!! I have been looking for a way to throw some new makeup products into my day to day routine. For $10 this bag is a steal!
The bag is so cute!! I decided to use it as a prize bag in my substitute bag. So It is now filled with stickers and erasers.
The Bare Minerals Marvelous Moxie Lipstick is a great color. As I have said before I am not a huge fan of color on my lips but this is a great shade. It is not too vibrant and just adds a small bit of color to my lips. It has made its way into my makeup bag and I am excited to use it.
The Chella Eyeliner Pen in Indigo Blue is very nice. I have never used an eyeliner pen. It draws such a great line. I am not a huge fan of blue eyeliner but I think I can find some uses for this.
The NYX Love in Rio eye shadow is perfect. I mostly use browns on my eyes so I was so excited to try it. It works well. Did not last very long on its own. I used the Pixi Primer (that did not match my skin tone very well) as a primer and it did help to hold the eye shadow a bit longer!
If you want to try Ipsy I suggest it for $10 a month it is a steal. This first bag makes me a believer! Check out my referral link. From what I have read it is the fastest way to get a bag because there is a waiting list!
I have had a very exciting week. I went on that job interview on Friday. It went so well! The Assistant Principal was such a sweetheart! We talked and she looked over my teaching portfolio. She loved it! As I was leaving she told me I interview very well and I am on a great path. She told me candidates would hear back in about a month. Well on Monday my phone rang…I GOT THE JOB!!!! I am now a per diem substitute teacher! I can not explain how excited I am. I really did not think it was going to happen! I am sure there will be a lot of posts about my experiences being a sub.
I also went for one of the many required tests that I needed to have done for my weight loss surgery. I have a lot of different things that affect my ability to lose weight on my own one being P.C.O.S. to spare anyone the gory details I added a link. Basically my body has issues with my hormones. So once I gain weight it is kind of just stuck there. I have dieted and worked out and nothing seems to work so this is my last resort. It is a decision that I have made with the support of my family and a lot of doctors. I have been waiting for this surgery for almost 7 years. I hate the way I look and I am uncomfortable in my own skin. I have had people tell me that I am taking the easy way out but trust me there is nothing about this that is easy. I have opted for the sleeve gastrectomy They will basically be removing 80% of my stomach. I will be on a liquid diet for 3-4 weeks before surgery. After surgery I will be on a liquid diet for about 6 weeks then I can start introducing foods back into my body little by little. There are things I will have to avoid for the rest of my life. However I am extremely optimistic about it all!
I had my first test on Monday. It was psych evaluation I was so nervous because I hate having to talk about my feelings but my doctor was fabulous and made me feel really comfortable! Before I left he told me it is going to be my year. So I am going to keep this positive attitude going….THIS IS MY YEAR!
****Just a little note for everyone….I have an instagram account now check it out! (@babblingdani) I am also on twitter @BabblingDani***
My very first job was at a catering hall. I worked on and off there for almost 7 years. I spent my weekends going to weddings, sweet 16’s, engagement parties, awards dinners, and business meetings. I did this while most people my age were going out drinking and partying. I worked two 17 hour shifts a weekend plus 2 week nights. This on top of extracurricular activities and homework.
I hated this job so much. Mostly because of the people I had to deal with.
I have some tips for the general public.
Be respectful. You have a job and people treat you well. This is our job treat us well!
Say please and thank you. You may think that goes with respect. However, not all people think that way.
Please tip waitstaff. You tip if you go to a restaurant like applebees or if you get a drink at a bar…why wouldn’t you tip at a wedding? Waitstaff still brings you food and drinks….If you are at a sweet 16 or a wedding please take care of the people who are running your food and drinks. Chances are they do not see a penny of the tips that are “included in the price” that the bride and groom pay per plate.
Be on time to whatever party you are going to. If you show up 25 minutes after dinner service do not expect to get a warm dinner or dinner at all. If you show up and don’t give an order find a waiter and ask to place an order!
DO NOT TOUCH WAITSTAFF!! If they have something in their hands chances are they should not be messed with! Grabbing a waitress to dance while they are serving salad is UNACCEPTABLE. In some cases we can get fired for something like that.
As much as you may think it helps do not put your plates,glasses, trash on a waiters tray as they are packing it or walking by. Chances are there is a very delicate balance on that tray that you will ruin.
Smile and have fun. If our tables are happy we can be happy.
These may be very biased. They may not even be true everywhere but please take these tips into consideration!
I love my Pinch Me boxes. Pinch me is a website that gathers samples. On Tuesdays at noon EST samples are released. It is completely FREE! You are not required to pay a penny. All you are asked to do is answer some questions about the products you received in the box. You get points for the surveys and for sharing reviews about the items on social media. This box was great. I received Reviver it is a clothing deodorizer. I was a bit confused. It almost seemed like it was one of the refreshing wipes that have come out recently but it is not. AND it is reusable! I used it last night and it seems really cool I was going out for dinner and I just swiped it over my clothes and it took away the everyday odor that developed over the day! It is great! I will be keeping it in my purse for sure! I need to get more very soon!!
I also received a small bottle of Clear Scalp & Hair Total Care Shampoo It was not my favorite item I have received. I am really picky about shampoo and this just dried out my hair. So I will not be purchasing it. It is just not what I would use. I am not bashing it at all I think that if you are looking for a cleaner scalp care this would probably be great!
You can sign up for PinchMe today! The next freebies will open up on Tuesday 3/18 at noon!
Well It is the time I have been dreading since I took out my first college loan. I just made my first student loan payment. I am owned by the creditors! I owe them about 8 times more than I made last year alone granted I was student teaching and going to school for the first half of the year so I made nothing… I am in the process of trying to lower my payments we will see what happens with that.There is so much red tape around college loans it is ridiculous. I am surprised I haven’t been asked for a urine sample and a blood test. They seem to know every detail of my life.
I just applied to grad school (everything is officially in and I am just waiting for a response) I also submitted my FAFSA since I am obviously a broke post grad and can not even think about paying for school. I am basically forcing myself into more debt so I can put off paying the debt I already have. (YAY deferment!)
I wish I was handed a stack of money at graduation instead of a piece of paper that is proving to be completely useless right now… I also wish I had a money tree growing in the backyard…
This post comes from my realization that I need to stop looking for a man so hard and enjoy life. Here is a series of why this realization came about…
So I am single. As single as I have been for the past 23 years of my life. I live in a constant state of being single. I am always the third wheel. I am the one who gets forgotten when my friends find their significant other. That is who I am and I get that. It is hard being the “big” girl in your group of friends. You constantly get pushed aside and forgotten. I have always dealt with it well. Or as well as can be imagined. However, there comes a point in your life where you just need to take a step back and realize that being alone kinda sucks. I am at the age where my friends are getting engaged and married. Some are even having kids. Here I am spending my Friday night on OkCupid.com or other dating sites that i gave in and wasted money on just trying to see if there could possibly be anyone out there for me.
I have had some success. I have met some great guys who I talk to for a few weeks until life gets in the way and we stop messaging or texting and that is that. I went on a date or two and that was that. It seems like there are a lot of duds out there. Not all are bad and I am not saying that but I cant seem to catch a good guy. If there are so many fish in the sea why do none of them bite for me?
I have decided to delete my accounts and just be me for a while. I think I need to take a step back. It is like people always say love will find you when you least expect it and maybe (hopefully) that will be soon. I suppose I need to stay positive. (advice on how to do that is welcomed!)
Before I delete these accounts I need to let everyone in on the joke that is OkCupid.com and the selection of men available. I included a screenshots of the initial message I received from one of the very horny guys. I wish I could pull up the instant messages he sent me because they were worse…..
That same guy was sending me instant messages telling me he wanted to “Fuck my brains out” I ignored them and let him keep going 45 messages after he told me he wouldn’t want to fuck me because I probably sucked in bed because everyone on this site does. Okay boy whatever you say! I hate when guys put their dick before their brains.
All accounts are now disabled. Now I get to wait to see what happens with my life. Wish me luck!